Well I think gender creative is just a kid who doesn't conform or follow,
what we like to kind of call the fake rules, around what you're
supposed to do if you are assigned boy or assigned girl in our society.
And so gender creative kids just don't follow those gender norms and
those gender rules.
And that might mean that they're going to end up to want to
transition, or be gender nonconforming, or non-binary in adolescence.
Or it might be that they're just gender creative,
and they're going to be, end up to be cisgender, and we don't really know.
But they're kind of just, kind of messing with the rules, and
I think that that upsets adults a lot more than it upsets other children.
I think children are much more fluid in kind of allowing kids to just be whoever
they're going to be.
And it's the messages that we get from society, and
the messages that they start to internalize that they then begin to think,
I'm not supposed to do this because I'm a girl.
Or I'm not supposed to do this cause I'm a boy,
which was all based on their assignment at birth, and might not have anything to
do with how they really think and feel about themselves.
Well I guess it's interesting, because I think parents and adults have, and
rightfully so,
I'm a parent I understand wanting to kind of know what their trajectory is.
And being able to have the best understanding that you have at
the time of your child.
But I think that this whole idea of should is part of the problem,
rather than just allowing children to just kind of be where they're at,
and express their gender in whatever way is comfortable to them.
So we kind of really advocate for children to be supported and
allowed to kind of do a range of expression.
What we try not to do is to try to lock that into any
certain one expression or one type of trajectory.
We want these to be really open over a period of time.
Because what we know from the research is that, it's not until adolescence that
the research shows that if an adolescent is identifying as trans,
it's likely that they're going to keep identifying as trans in some way.
We don't really know that in terms of children, so our kind of approach
is to work with parents to be supportive, to be affirming wherever the child is at.
But to know that that can shift and change, and that that's good and
that we kind of want that.
Because that's what development does, it shifts and changes all the time.
And so how do we create spaces where children can do
that rather than make them get into the fake rules?
Or the other side of that is, transition them and then say,
and now you gotta follow the rules of the other set of boxes.
Does that make sense?
>> Mh-mm.
>> I think some kids are in distress.
What's hard to parce out is the extent to which the distress is based on
the messages that they're getting about how their supposed to be.
And that a lot of stigma and
discrimination comes from being gender nonconforming or gender creative.
And so it's hard to know how much of,
I think there's a ton of distress that comes from that.
And so then if they internalize that,
then they begin to kind of feel like there's something wrong with them.
And I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do based on what these messages are.
So a lot of what we are trying to do is to prevent, or
give them the tools to deal with that sense of stigma and
discrimination that comes at them, when they're just kind of being them.
Rebecca Graetz, EdDInstructor
Annette McNamara
